How making your baby feel secure reduces crying – Part 2

Babies are born lacking knowledge and so lacking the skill to be with you anything. When they are hungry, they become nervous because they don’t be with you that milk will take the longing away (or that it’s on its way!) and so they weep. When they are tired, they become nervous because don’t be with you that it means they need to sleep, so they weep. Helping your baby to feel secure in their routine and in their parents reduces anxiety and therefore reduces the amount of time they spend crying for things.

When a baby is first born, they are absolutely new to absolutely everything. They have natural instincts driving them to eat, sleep and investigate but they are born lacking any knowledge of how to achieve these desires. As parents it is our job to make sure our baby’s corporal needs are met while they are too young to manage lacking help. Establishing a routine is one of the first things you should try to do to minimise insecurity in your newborn. As the days and weeks go by, your baby will quickly realise that they are always fed, changed and place to bed as necessary and they will consequently become increasingly secure that there needs will continually be met.

One of the best ways to make sure your baby feels secure is to really take the time to relax and really bond with them. Breastfed babies will benefit from a Mother able to relax and allow feeding to happen naturally, while bottle fed babies will benefit from a parent that makes the effort to hold their baby closely while feeding them. Try not to see feeding era as a chore but as an opportunity to relax for a while and delight in a cuddle with your baby. This kind of settled and relaxed attitude will pass over to your baby and help them to feel not only relaxed but also secure.

Swaddling a newborn at night is a highly recommended technique relating wrapping your baby tightly in blankets to mimic the close, snug feel of the womb. This kind of security will help your baby to feel cool, safe and relaxed which in turn will aid their sleep and minimise crying all through the night.

Wherever possible, it’s advisable to try hard not to allow yourself to get stressed or frazzled around your baby. Babies have a strong link to their parents, their Mother in particular when they are newborns, and they can and will pick up on household tension. It is quite common for very young babies to pick up on their Mother’s heart rate or breathing and mimic it. For this reason, it’s only natural that stress and worry can be passed over to your baby.

Babies will always weep, it’s their only method of communication in the early weeks and months. But helping your baby to feel secure will minimise the amount of time they spend doing so and make life a lot simpler and more pleased for the family as a whole.